Hi babes –
I KNOW I have already talked a ton about how great the Be Bonafide “Let’s Get Real Event” is… But I wanted to share a couple takeaways that really stuck with me.
1.NEVER hide your light. So many wonderful speakers bravely shared their stories of grief, betrayal, insecurities, loss, divorce, violence, and more. One of the things that really hit home with me is that every single woman has something so special about her, that often in these stories, she suppressed that light. And though it’s not my place to share their stories, I want to send a strong message to you all… If a person in your life ever makes you feel like you need to hide who you are… RUN! The people you give your time to should be the people who love your light the most and encourage you to be yourself.
2. I NEED to get back to yoga. Ok not just yoga. Making time for myself is something that typically comes AFTER building my business, nannying, cooking, cleaning, running, taking care of my pup… and well, you get the jist. I have gotten into a cycle where I don’t really take time for quiet moments of reflection. Church, meditation, gratitude journaling, and even visualizing goals – I haven’t done these things in ages! So let me tell you- it felt SO good to go on this retreat! I got in TWO yoga sessions, a life coach session, etc. Afterward, I made a pledge to myself to spend time EVERY day on one or more of these activities. Even if it’s just 5 mins of meditating – it can be key in making sure you’re the best version of yourself.
3. Joy is very important to me. We did an activity where we needed to circle our values out of a list of almost 100 words. Each time, I really just gravitated towards “joy.” It really struck me. I am known in my family as someone that is kind of naturally happy… And it’s true. I am someone that wakes up happy – 9 times out of 10! It is a TRUE blessing that I thank God for on a regular basis. But I also realized through this activity that I FOCUS on joy… I spend time with children, I love on animals, my boyfriend and I rarely stop laughing together. I think it is a core value of mine and I am realizing it’s something I love about myself.
4. I am really lucky to be where I am at in my life. It’s not just the stories of immense loss and pain, but also just realizing how many insecurities women carry around… I have my fair share of flaws but I am happy in my career, over the moon about my partner (who truly loves, protects, and respects me), I obsessed with the new city I’ve landed in and get to explore every day, financially I am stable and just bought a house… I am lucky and need to wake up each day knowing that. Life is short and precious. Good moments are few and far between. So I plan to soak up this happy time as much as I can and be grateful.
5. “PERFECT” isn’t a thing. Even after what I said above, it’s important to keep things in perspective. Whether it’s on social media or over cocktails at happy hour… No one’s life is ever perfect, no matter how many times they say it is. The more we try to pursue this “perfect” life, the more unhappy we will be! It’s not possible to have a perfect life… So every time we try to have one and fail, we beat ourselves up for it! What a waste! If instead, we can embrace life’s imperfections as learning experiences, the closer we will be to actual happiness and a feeling of fulfillment. Perfect ain’t a thing!
Thanks for reading guys! I HOPE you got something out of these lessons. I learned so much about myself and about life at this event. Hope you will check out Be Bonafide’s social media, website, and stay tuned for their next retreat!
If you haven’t read about the details of the event, check out my previous post HERE.